Benefits of listening to children

From an early age children have so much to share.

You might be wondering how your toddler can say so much before breakfast, let alone everything they say by dinner.

In the rush of daily life, it can be easy to focus on your tasks, but it’s important we also make time to pause and listen to our children. Why not let your child help with some of the household tasks. This provides time for talking and listening.

Talking and really listening to your child holds a lot of importance. It is a two way experience with benefits for not only your child but for you as well.

Benefits for your child

  • When children feel heard, they feel loved and confident.
  • When you listen it shows your child how to be a good listener too.
  • Open discussions help build a close bond and a strong relationship based on trust.
  • A secure relationship contributes to helping your child become resilient, responsible and caring.

Benefits for you

  • Your child will see you as a person they can always turn to when they need support or guidance.
  • Their interests may actually surprise you and help you see your child in a new light.
  • You may get invaluable insight into how they like to play and learn, and the best ways to engage with them.

Tips for listening                                                                                                

Listening involves paying full attention to what your child has to say.

Sometimes you may have to explain to your child that they need to wait before you can give them attention.

When you do have a moment, try these tips for listening:

  • Let your child know they have your undivided attention.
  • Focus on your child, don’t jump in to fix things, just listen.
  • Use language your child will understand.
  • Place yourself in your child’s shoes, imagine how you would have reacted in a given situation that your child is in.
  • Show curiosity and have an open mind.
  • Show attentiveness and be receptive by nodding and using positive facial expressions to reassure them.
  • Show you are interested and understand.
  • Be patient – don’t hurry your response.
  • Schedule time together where you can be in the moment physically and mentally.

Take the time today to listen to your child. Who knows what we will learn.

Watch the Listen! 200 Children’s Voices videos and listen to talking with kindy, Prep , Year 1 and Year 2 kids.




Published — 24 October 2018 Last updated — 25 October 2018

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